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Bella's avatar

Super interesting read that made me reflect on how i approach my own thought process/contributions!

I wonder how this intertwines with Mariame Kaba's assertion of "hope as a discipline". If we are all practicing maintaining and spreading hope, then we are also more insulated to this type of pessimism.

Also, is critique and pessimism the same thing here?

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AshkanNr's avatar

You know, I think we often get pessimism all wrong. We treat it like it's just a bad attitude or a cold, intellectual argument we have to win or shut down.

But honestly, it's so much deeper than that. Pessimism is often just a kind of grief. It's the heavy, aching sadness for all the potential we've lost, the things that failed, or the future that might never happen.

And when we leave that grief unspoken, when we push it down, it warps everything around us. It poisons our closest relationships, and it sabotages the important work we're trying to do as a group.

So maybe groups focused on a big vision don't just need sharp analysis; they need emotional honesty. They need designated moments where it’s actually okay for people to mourn and still keep building meaning.

Think about it: If we can’t stop and grieve together, optimism just becomes a frantic way to avoid the tough stuff. And if we can’t hold on to hope together, that collective sadness just becomes a permanent reason to give up.

The real challenge isn't about picking pessimism or optimism as a permanent side. It’s about building a culture that has room for both, where seeing things exactly as they are and staying emotionally strong aren’t fighting each other. They need to work together in the long, hard process of just keeping going. -Nasr

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